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The funny thing about life is, that we spend all of our time trying so hard to make other people happy, we forget about being happy ourselves. When last did you just do something for yourself? I do not mean shopping for shoes or something equally necessary – when did you just have fun, throw your head back and have a good laugh?
I know that in our ever demanding lives, having fun seems irresponsible but all our responsibilities will still be here tomorrow. Take time out from worrying about: the shopping, bath time, homework, losing weight and just smile about how lucky you are to be alive!
Spending time with my ‘wonderfully crazy family’ last night, reminded me that we can just have fun, laugh about life instead of taking it all so seriously! So do something that makes you happy and laugh a little… or a lot!
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The meaning of being a woman….
Dictionary Definition: “An adult human female”
It was quite amusing, when my 10 year old daughter asked me what the “Woman’s Day” public holiday, was celebrating and then she went on to ask; “when do you become a woman, Mom?” Needless to say I had to choose my words wisely. On the first matter of what the holiday celebrates, I tried to explain that many years ago, woman had no rights and the holiday celebrates “our” independence. This was met with a look of absolute horror.
The next question was trickier; both my daughters are of the mind-set that being a teenager, makes you a woman. I guess that the dictionary definition above says it all; you are a woman when you become an adult but that is somewhat subjective. I went on to say that what defines a woman is more than a word or her age and that she would understand more, when the time comes.
Words that describe, what being a woman means to me:
My top 5 Inspirational woman (in no particular order):
“These women represent to me what it means to be truly inspirational,to stand up for what you believe in and not be afraid of failure or criticism.”
1) Mother Teresa (26 Aug 1910 – 5 Sep 1997)
She was a Catholic, Albanian, nun who founded the Missionaries Charity in Calcutta, India. She is well known for the humanitarian work and encouragement of rights for the poor and helpless. She was the recipient of many awards including the Nobel Peace Prize, in 1979. This was a woman that regardless of her circumstances in life stood against adversity and fought for the basic human rights of those in need. We could learn so much from her, especially in the cut throat “each man for himself” world we live in.
2) Florence Nightingale (12May 1820 – 13 Aug 1910)
She was a celebrated, Anglican, English nurse, writer and statistician. Her belief was that God called her to be a nurse. She is renowned for her pioneering work in nursing, during the Crimean war. Her nickname was “the lady of the lamp”, as she carried a lamp during her rounds at night. In 1860 she established her nursing school at St Thomas Hospital in London.
“She was a favourite historical figure of mine, in my studies at school and my eldest daughter has just been learning about her at school and has also found her most intriguing.”
3) Helen Adams Keller (June 27, 1880 – June 1, 1968)
Helen was born on June 27, 1880, in Tuscumbia, Alabama. She was an American author, political activist, and lecturer. She was the first deaf blind person; to earn a Bachelor of Arts degree. Her teacher, Anne Sullivan, broke through the barriers imposed on hearing impaired people, allowing Helen to blossom as she learned to communicate.
Helen was a prolific author and was well-travelled, she was outspoken in her opposition to war. As a member of the Socialist Party of America and the Wobblies, she campaigned for women’s suffrage, workers’ rights, and socialism, as well as many other leftist causes. So she is pretty much a hero in most people’s eyes.
4) Amelia Earhart (born July 24, 1897; missing July 2, 1937, declared legally dead January 5, 1939)
She was a celebrated American aviation pioneer and was the first woman to receive the ‘US Distinguished Flying Cross’, which she was awarded as the first Aviatrix (female pilot) to fly solo across the Atlantic Ocean. Amelia went on to set many more records, became a renowned author and was an early supporter of the ‘Equal Rights Amendment’. She played a vital role in the establishment of ‘The Ninety Nines’, an organisation for female pilots. In 1937 during a flight, attempting to circumnavigate the globe she disappeared over the Central Pacific Ocean.
She was an amazing woman, who showed the world that we are not living in a ‘man’s world’ – as woman we can do and be anything we set our minds to.
I know I have focused on a fairly serious group of woman until now, all pioneers for womans rights and the establishment of many great institutions and I am truly left in awe of all their achievements. So the next inspirational woman is not quite as serious, in a manner of speaking and still very much alive:
5) Sarah Jessica Parker (Born 25 March 1965)
She is a renowned American film, television and theatre actress and producer. Her most acclaimed acting role, is as Carrie Bradshaw, in HBO’s TV series ‘Sex and the City’. Sarah is a multi-award winning actress; amongst these awards she has won four Golden Globe awards. In 2008 she played the same role, Carrie Bradshaw, in the feature film; ‘Sex in the City – the Movie’ and again in the sequel ‘Sex in the City2’, in 2010. Her next movie due to hit the box office next month is ‘I don’t Know How She Does It?’ The movie is based on the book by Allison Pearson, which I mentioned in a previous post.
My all-time favourite movie of hers was Footloose in 1984 (yes I am probably showing my age), which became a rather iconic movie, at the time.
She lives in New York City with her husband Matthew Broderick and their twin girls. In addition to motherhood and her acting career, she is a prominent member of ‘Hollywood’s Women’s Political Committee’ and a ‘UNICEF’ representative.
She is most certainly my favourite fashion icon; to me she epitomises grace and elegance. I would love to own just a fraction of her wardrobe!
These women are but a few, of many wonderful examples of amazing icons throughout history that represent what it truly means to be a woman.
Quotes to Inspire:
“You educate a man; you educate a man. You educate a woman; you educate a generation.” — Brigham Young
“Love, the poet said, is woman’s whole existence.” — Virginia Woolf (Orlando)
This quote is for my man – he said I had to include something from “Maggie”:
“In politics, if you want anything said, ask a man. If you want anything done, ask a woman.” — Margaret Thatcher
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The first thing that comes to my mind when I think of the word ‘existence’ is life. Without life we would not exist, this is a very simple concept to understand. This is not a discussion on creation versus evolution. It is just me trying to understand why I do things the way I do.
I have heard all the psychology behind living a happy and fulfilling life, but for some of us, “just living” is quite difficult. I guess what I am trying to say is that I would love to possess that ‘whatever happens’ – ‘devil may care’ attitude, but that just does not come naturally to me. Part of me thinks that being calculated and planned is far more practical and necessary to make my life work. However, there needs to be a lighter, brighter side to life as well.
I was always accused of being far too serious at school but there was a job that needed doing and I felt that my method of getting it done was a good one for me. Do not get me wrong, I did not have a miserable time at school but I took it fairly seriously.
How does this translate to my life today, as a wife and mother? I planned my wedding with great determination. I definitely planned my two children and am blessed to have them, knowing what some people have to go through just trying to conceive.
My husband would contest this, but I feel I am a realist and still take life fairly seriously. This is definitely apparent in my parenting methods. Not to say that I love the mundane routine of everyday life, but I am determined to be the best mother that I can be.
I was reading an article today on parenting teenagers, a phase of parenting which I am fast approaching. It stated that although teenagers require freedom, they still need firm boundaries. I feel that boundaries are a vital part of parenting and in most other areas of life too.
So where am I heading with this article? I guess that I would love not to have to plan and calculate everything I do, but I am not sure that it is in my nature to do otherwise. A friend mentioned the other day that one of the dads in her circle of friends, rolls around on the floor playing with his child. So my question begs, is this an age related thing or an inherent temperament, that we either do or do not have? In my opinion we parent as we are. If we are free and easy as people, it reflects in our parenting style. The control freaks like me, definitely have a harder time letting go, as we would like everything to be precise and we calculate all we do.
Does this calculated way of life have negative effects on our children or does it teach them to value life and all the opportunities afforded to them. Would I rather bring my child up without a care in the world, or rather to respect and care for themselves and the world around them? I guess, for me, definitely the latter. One of the things I am learning is that we cannot change who our children are but we can certainly influence who they become.
For me, leading a measured existence is almost a necessity rather than an option. It is in my nature and although I sometimes feel envious of those that can do it differently, I know that I have been created this way for a purpose. Be it to parent my children in a certain manner or some other equally important reason, it was preordained the moment I was born.
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” Jeremiah 1:5
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Black & White, FAR Photography
I am not entirely sure, why I love black and white photography so much. I think that it somehow creates a mood of mystery and intrigue, it allows your imagination to fill in the colours.
Monochromatic photography allows you, as the audience, to bear witness to the true nature of the subject. The play of shadow and light are the star of the show.
In particular I love these images and thought I would share them with you; I found them most inspiring.
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